Self-esteem Author Says Sad Jackson Private Life Is A Lesson For Us All

Award-winning author and self-esteem coach says she is upset about the death of Michael Jackson but finds a lesson to be learned from his strange, heartbreaking life. End Quote

Most people learn how to interact with others by imitating their parents, so it's worth it to take a look at how we communicate with our kids.

Boston, MA-NH (1888PressRelease) July 07, 2009 - The award-winning author of the book Boot Camp for the Broken-Hearted: How to Survive (and Be Happy) in the Jungle of Love says she is saddened by the death of Michael Jackson but finds a lesson to be learned from his strange, heartbreaking life.

Author and self-esteem coach Audrey Valeriani says that apart from the controversy over Jackson’s alleged abuse of children, the fact that such a talented and much loved superstar so often and so drastically altered his appearance should teach us how important self-esteem really is. She stated, “The man was told from a young age by his father that he was ugly and not good enough, and as he grew up that non-acceptance remained with him. He simply could not love himself and tried so often to change that, most apparently through cosmetic surgery. And as we saw in his well-publicized spending sprees, he also tried to make himself happy by accumulating material possessions which was only a temporary fix – it was all just putting band-aids on a bigger, deeper problem.”

Valeriani who coaches people from all over the world both in-person and via e-mail also points out that, “Michael Jackson was a perfectionist. You could see it in his performances and in the comments of those with whom he worked and who knew him. He demanded only the best from himself on stage which must have put enormous pressure on him emotionally and strain on his body. If you think about it, he was doing to himself exactly what his father did to him. It’s such a shame.”

Valeriani also says that we all share in the responsibility for shaping young lives. “It’s up to the parents and the adults around our children to make them feel good about themselves. As we can see in the case of Michael Jackson, most people learn how to interact with others and cope by imitating their parents, so it’s worth it to stop and take a look at how we communicate with our kids. We’ve got to ask ourselves, are we making them feel confident and capable and strong? Or are we ridiculing or criticizing them to the point where instead of trying harder, they are retreating to a place of self-loathing. I mean, this stuff is crucial and will set the tone for the rest of their lives.”

The author teaches clients that self-esteem is key to success in life. She explains that self-esteem has a direct impact on our opportunities and decisions in life, so that if we believe we are not as worthy as other people, we may not allow ourselves the “good stuff” in life, like putting our own needs first, pampering ourselves, or going for that cushy, high paying job because we don’t believe we deserve it. Conversely, if we love and accept ourselves, we will naturally think about what’s best for ourselves and strive to bring only that to our lives.

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